Saturday, September 28, 2013

Speaking vs Being: How who you are matters more than what you say

So tonight in my procrastination time, I spent two hours being captivated by this video:


For those that don't know, the organisation called City Bible Forum organised a series of debates/discussions between Prof William Lane Craig and Prof Laurence Krauss on "Life, the Universe and Nothing". Bill Craig is a leading Christian Philosopher; Laurence Krauss is a leading Atheistic theoretical physicist and cosmologist. This was the second discussion of the series, and it was held in Sydney. (The first one was in Brisbane, but that one's not worth watching; it was merely a platform for Krauss to be rude and oblivious to actual discussion).

While the topic of discussion itself was quite fascinating, what I found particularly interesting was how I was emotionally reacting to the discussion, and how that affected who I "wanted" to be right, and therefore whose opinion I favoured more. In being aware of how that emotional component affected how I judged each speaker's propositions, I tried to tease apart the emotional contributions to that judgement from the rational contributions to that judgement. And it was hard to do so!

But why?

And why is that important?

Krauss came across as an arrogant, and sometimes downright rude, personality. From the word go he set out to undermine Craig's character and reputability, rather than stick to the topic of the debate itself, as if that made any difference to the substance of the argument. Sometimes he does it subtly, or even jokes about it; other times (most times) he just rudely interrupts or demeans and devalues whatever the other person says.

Craig on the other hand comes across as a winsome, well-spoken gentleman. He rarely interrupted Krauss, and even when he does he's almost apologetic about it. He's softly spoken, and doesn't chase up flaws and fallacies in the other's arguments vehemently if it's off topic and not within the boundaries of the discussion.

Now, Craig outclassed Krauss with every single argument he made. Craig was clear and concise, addressed every relevant question directly and coherently. Krauss on the other hand often failed to address the topic itself, appeared blind to any opinion but his own, denigrated his opponent continually (subtly or not), and amusingly did not adhere to his prized "evidence" as much as he claimed to, often blundering into obviously ignorant statements that even mere laypeople could see are false (if they were looking).

But facts aside, who would you decide to be more authoritative and correct? How would you choose which one you listen to? Which person would you give the power to have authority over directing your intellectual growth and direction?

I came to the realisation that most of the time, if we're completely honest with ourselves, the actual facts of the matter matter much less than the person who is presenting the facts to you. If the person you view is trustworthy and authoritative, you'll be happy to go with what they say; or at least you'll take longer to refute what they say that you could rationalise to be wrong.

Why do teenagers trust their friends' advice on relationships over their parents' advice, when these friends have as little experience in this as the child asking the question and the parents have so  many more years of firm committed relationship to back them up? Why do students scorn the knowledge of a professor who does not know how to speak, but speak highly of hip, young and cool tutors who relate to them easily? (All the while  not realising that these tutors may only be a year or two ahead of them in their studies!) Why do patients fail to place their trust in a grumpy old senior doctor's advice, but their hearts melt in the hands of a warm, winsome junior doctor, despite the great disparity in experience?

Who the person is matters at least as much as, if not more than, what the person is saying.

And so some people will find themselves agreeing with Krauss more just because he's louder, speaks more than (and often over the top of) Craig, and his verbal dance appears more impressive. Some people will find Craig less convincing because he is more soft-spoken, and does not "speak up for himself" (when there is no need to, because Krauss' foolery would be obvious to the keen observer; but not everyone is dissecting the thoughts with a sharp mind!)

Others will disagree with Krauss merely because he's so rude, and they find themselves unable to accept the words of such an abusive person. And some will accept Craig's words simply because he is the nicer voice to listen to, the gentle, respectful, reasonable one.

All these four situations are technically wrong. One should not accept the validity of an argument just because of a person's personality. It does not make sense! The validity of the argument should be based on whether that argument actually holds water.

Ah, but who can override the power of the Heart? ;)
"The heart is deceitful, above all things"

And so, the next time you're entering or witnessing a discussion on controversial issues, think about this: Where is your heart? And how is that affecting your thinking?

And for Christians, it really brings home the adage, "Preach the Gospel at all times; use words when necessary".

What you say may be important, but nowhere near as important as WHO YOU ARE.


(PS - I have spent a third hour procrastinating by writing this blog XD...)

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